Nduati Maina’s marriage character development

“Men need to be more physically active,” he says, and I wonder if he is advising me or himself. Potato, potato. Which, coincidentally, is his favorite meal, an old flame, and a deal-breaker of such magnitude that it had to be included in his wedding as a “groom’s special.” It doesn't mean he loves his wife less, but he loves potatoes more.

As long as you are consistent, everything will make sense. My dad says it all makes sense when you look back and connect the dots. This ability to be consistent and focused is always adding up.

Being active, I use that loosely. If you say exercise, one will think of the gym. But being physically active will keep you younger. My father is 80 years old and very agile, he can't climb trees. He has managed to avoid illnesses, and I can see that vitality when he plays with his grandchildren. Good diet is key.

Without going into details, everything in moderation. I don't limit myself from the good things in life. I'll have a burger and pizza from time to time. But I stick to healthy, clean eating 70 percent of the time.

Yes! I know haha! In all its forms except boiled. When my wife and I were planning our wedding — please be gentle when you write this, haha ​​— potatoes were among the must-haves.

No, I just love them (chuckles).

In a nightclub in the city. I just broke up with my ex a few months ago. She was dancing with her friends, and I'm telling you, I've never seen such a beautiful creature before. I approached her and told her, “I have never seen someone like you in my life, and can I dance?” She said no (laughs). I approached her three more times, but to no avail, but I still gave her my card on which I wrote my number.

The next day her friend called – she thought it was her! In short, her friend told me that she (my wife) loved me but my wife was having an affair at the time. In other words, I overthrew the existing government, haha! You changed me.

I've always been the type of person who fully commits to a relationship, so if it ends, I'll look back and know I did my best with no regrets. Moreover, she was too beautiful to wait and solve my problems first.

Hmm. I see that our future is secure. She will keep me accountable, believe I'm meant for more, and always push me to move forward.

She sees more in me than I see in myself. I'm an introvert and she keeps that fire inside me burning, that I'm capable of achieving more, she's my support system.

These are difficult questions. (Long pause). Hmm. I have seen them working together to build themselves but our desire is to grow and explore different things together. My mother traveled a lot compared to my father. But when my wife and I travel together, we experience new moments together that enrich our marriage. The father I am today is 100% my father. It is intentional and very present.

We traveled to Tafaria Castle and it was full of drama. Along the way, we were cruising and saw no signs of a bump, so we crashed and flew. That trip inspired one of our children's names: Taji.

I believe we came together to empower each other to be the best versions of ourselves. My father took charge and supported my mother throughout her journeys – and this taught me that in any relationship, we are here to be intentional with each other and not be selfish. Determine the best working formula for your relationships. I recently read: “The voice of your marriage should be louder than the vice of society.” This is your relationship.

Marriage is a great personality developer. You will have to step out of your comfort zone and consider someone else's needs before your own. Now I'm more focused on meeting my clients' needs. Marriage took away my selfishness.

Don't force issues. If she wants to go, let her go.

I have twin daughters who are seven years old.

I have good friends, Eddie and Dan, who are my support systems. We'll have a drink and just talk. But I'm also very into exercise, it energizes me. I worked out six days a week, weight training Monday through Friday, and rode a stationary bike on Saturdays.

I like to give rather than receive and I hardly celebrate my birthdays. As a man, my life is for my family so I would rather do it for them than for myself.

Hmm. Sunday lunch somewhere. But we have to hug every morning. Even if we're angry with each other.

Sleep (chuckle). I remember school closing for school holidays and my father would always wake up early, even if he wasn't going to work. He would tell meInsufficient sleep(Sleep will never be enough.) Now I go to bed at 10pm and wake up at 3am.

I'm big into animation. I love animation. especially ranges. And Despicable me.

Depends on who you ask (laughs). I'm making progress as a husband and I still have to get rid of a little selfishness. My altruism towards my children comes naturally.

(Long pause) Tough question. It depends on “whatever you have” but I think everyone has things they value, and if you can identify what they are and focus on them, you can have them. My friend Eddie believes that you will struggle for the things you want.

Hmm. A long, uneventful journey.

Courage over fear By Eminem. The magic you're looking for is in the work you're avoiding. It reminds me of this other quote: “Procrastination is the arrogant assumption that God owes you a second chance to do what you had the opportunity to do today.” Your moment is today.

Hmm. Everything may not make sense now, but over time it will.

Being consistent and with my growth mindset.

You know what I know now? nothing.

Haha! Accept a road trip. I allow myself to indulge on Saturdays because I dedicate myself to a strict routine from Monday to Friday. Instead of feeling guilty, it gives me incentive to stick to the routine.

I make medium shawarma. This is a guilty pleasure for me and my wife. And now it's become a habit and expectation, haha!

Dan, who owns Lesus Executive and recently launched an executive commuter app, and Eddie Thiong'o, a corporate strategist – have a brilliant mind. These are my two challenges.